convincing others for what they have done wrong to you! is it a good idea?

mostly women stick to something when it just put on their nerves and shocked them. the time between it  is so painful, embarrassing, hurt, lost and end someone no where. the questions appear in mind to ask him/her why you have done this to me? why me? are  you ashamed on what you have done? you must say sorry! you should be apologize for your deeds! you should try to fix all the mess with me! but on the other side there is complete silence, a silence which may kill you. hurt you even more...its not about the sensitivity but we all somewhere with someone was too much loyal that he/she trapped us in that kind of miserable pain. you may losing health, out of focus, dull and may be in extreme cases taking pills or drugs to calm down yourself.

if that so than this will be for you or someone you want to share...

before we start what to do, we must know what happened to you and why it happened to you!

the nature lord has given to ladies is based on caring. thats why she is a mother. she has the ability to sacrifice. to tolerate, to love unconditionally, she can laugh when she is actually crying. she can work when she is dead tired, thats her nature. 

"she thinks for others before herself"

well there is nothing wrong in it. it makes you angel. but when you start doing things for those who don't deserve that it hurts and you keep on doing till you get fed up. you goes to all stage of fixing things. the day you had felt that its just you who is trying. you were pain and at the end it just increase but you already had that pain with you throughout. 

giving someone a chance to understand, a chance to fix all the mess and a chance to live together is a sign of bravery, tolerance and wise but if they are not caring you that why not you care yourself.

love yourself

 believe that you deserve to be happy, to be healthy. 

our minds stuck to the things others has done to us and we forget what we are doing with ourselves. if you & I just compare that the loss we have given to ourselves is much bigger than the loss someone else has done to us. female is a creature with creative mind. I believe may be you gonna laugh but we create many people in our own images than the actual they are. those images are our expectations. ( like he will care me, love me like I do, we go on long drive etc etc :) the problem occurs when suddenly we face the actual person who is rude to us, ill treating and we start wasting our more time to make that idiot the person,the person we had dreamed about....(sorry I become little informal) anyways. so what should we do.

accept others as the are and accept the realities.

you don't need such people who hurt you. they are just like a broken mirror, it will give you even more pain if you try to fix it.

just give you best try to survive the relation/friendship (its not always love relations it can be your children who forget all of your efforts)but understand that these needs mutual cooperation and compromise

give yourself a break

, go to sunlight, enjoy the wind, go to a salon and give yourself sometime. meet your friends and laugh louder as you can. eat healthy food.

if your friend is facing such challenges, the first thing you have to do is to listen, yes listen her till she calm down. many ladies meet me and tell long stories. but yes I keep listening as I feel proud that my listening console them. they feel better. and the next step is when she again start smiling or talking on other things.let her know that she is beautiful and she deserve to be happy. most of the ladies just forget it. :-*

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you don't forget to say to yourself:

I love myself and I am the person who can help the person in the mirror.

this life is a story. your story...write it wisely. which someone could tell to somebody at his/her tough times. be a warrior and you are the writer of your book. when it comes to write your story. don't give someone else to hold the pen.

love you all, stay blessed and let me know if still something bothering you.