convincing others for what they have done wrong to you! is it a good idea?

mostly women stick to something when it just put on their nerves and shocked them. the time between it  is so painful, embarrassing, hurt, lost and end someone no where. the questions appear in mind to ask him/her why you have done this to me? why me? are  you ashamed on what you have done? you must say sorry! you should be apologize for your deeds! you should try to fix all the mess with me! but on the other side there is complete silence, a silence which may kill you. hurt you even more...its not about the sensitivity but we all somewhere with someone was too much loyal that he/she trapped us in that kind of miserable pain. you may losing health, out of focus, dull and may be in extreme cases taking pills or drugs to calm down yourself.

if that so than this will be for you or someone you want to share...

before we start what to do, we must know what happened to you and why it happened to you!

the nature lord has given to ladies is based on caring. thats why she is a mother. she has the ability to sacrifice. to tolerate, to love unconditionally, she can laugh when she is actually crying. she can work when she is dead tired, thats her nature. 

"she thinks for others before herself"

well there is nothing wrong in it. it makes you angel. but when you start doing things for those who don't deserve that it hurts and you keep on doing till you get fed up. you goes to all stage of fixing things. the day you had felt that its just you who is trying. you were pain and at the end it just increase but you already had that pain with you throughout. 

giving someone a chance to understand, a chance to fix all the mess and a chance to live together is a sign of bravery, tolerance and wise but if they are not caring you that why not you care yourself.

love yourself

 believe that you deserve to be happy, to be healthy. 

our minds stuck to the things others has done to us and we forget what we are doing with ourselves. if you & I just compare that the loss we have given to ourselves is much bigger than the loss someone else has done to us. female is a creature with creative mind. I believe may be you gonna laugh but we create many people in our own images than the actual they are. those images are our expectations. ( like he will care me, love me like I do, we go on long drive etc etc :) the problem occurs when suddenly we face the actual person who is rude to us, ill treating and we start wasting our more time to make that idiot the person,the person we had dreamed about....(sorry I become little informal) anyways. so what should we do.

accept others as the are and accept the realities.

you don't need such people who hurt you. they are just like a broken mirror, it will give you even more pain if you try to fix it.

just give you best try to survive the relation/friendship (its not always love relations it can be your children who forget all of your efforts)but understand that these needs mutual cooperation and compromise

give yourself a break

, go to sunlight, enjoy the wind, go to a salon and give yourself sometime. meet your friends and laugh louder as you can. eat healthy food.

if your friend is facing such challenges, the first thing you have to do is to listen, yes listen her till she calm down. many ladies meet me and tell long stories. but yes I keep listening as I feel proud that my listening console them. they feel better. and the next step is when she again start smiling or talking on other things.let her know that she is beautiful and she deserve to be happy. most of the ladies just forget it. :-*

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you don't forget to say to yourself:

I love myself and I am the person who can help the person in the mirror.

this life is a story. your story...write it wisely. which someone could tell to somebody at his/her tough times. be a warrior and you are the writer of your book. when it comes to write your story. don't give someone else to hold the pen.

love you all, stay blessed and let me know if still something bothering you.

A game which can kill your child!!!!

teenage is the age of anxiety, day dreaming, emotional and passionate. A teenage can dare to go up to any extend. do you ever think that the psychological stage of a teenage can lead him to suicide. 

yes it can. right now a social network game blue whale is accused to promoting the trend of suicide in teenage. around 150 people were killed by this haunted game. the game end in few days and it gives different tasks to the player like do cut your skin or make a tattoo on your arm. the take personal data which they threat to public in case you leave the game. at the end of the game, the last task is to kill yourself.

teenage love to dare and they accept challenges very quickly. isolate teenage may have more chances to be pray of such sites. parenthood is not a day job. you have to be around your kid all the time till they get mature enough to understand what is right for them. the problem begins when child reach adolescence, they start their first argue that they knows everything. As much I spend time with kids in school. kids like to learn in a friendly way rather than force them to do something. they will not listen to you. the best way is to train them from beginning so that their mind shaped by you instead leave them in beginning and start teaching them when they developed their habits. changing once's nature is much difficult task. you can modify them but can't change them completely.

my suggestions to parents

•  put your computer in living room where your child can be in front of you and be a friend of your kid on social media so that you can know who is in his contacts and what kind of aptitudes and attitudes they have.
• always make them feel that you are always there for him. 

• be patient as this age group is so much emotional, they may misbehave but you have to tolerate them. they need you.
• start giving your child time, make family gatherings. go to park, movie together. make them feel that they are especial
• train your child from beginning. so that they get your vision from initial years.

my condolence with the families who lost their world (child ) by such thriller games. the game company said that they didn't incline kids to suicide but its also a fact that around 150 teenagers prayed by it. its possible that the above reasons may cause him to make his life trilling , important and ambitious by following such task.

• kids of this age need appreciation. let give them chance to prove themselves.don't criticize them all the time. if they do something good, must be rewarded.
• don't give physical punishments to your kid. it disturb them completely and they became emotional and depressed which cause to any misfortune to him.

stay blessed. hope so my highlighted facts may help some family today. stay blessed. don't forget to tell what changes you have planned to protect your child from such dangers.

xoxo

teenage girl's love Hiddat- Geo TV

my teenage girls, 

mostly I became harsh or stop them at once without mentioning that I love them so much and don't want that they see the fake colors of the world. love itself is a blessing. pure love can be the greatest gift of God but wait!

is it a proper age to search a partner or bf for you.? do our culture,traditions and above all our family is going to support us in such a young age. of course not! you will face unexpected and bitter experience of life. harsh words and jokes by friends. 

Teenage, its the age in which you are more dreamy, more passionate, more loving and adventurous. The frame of world in your mind is too short, blur and uncleared. its like a tunnel you know its dark inside but don't know what inbetween when you traveled into it and what will be on the other side of the tunnel. 

we all got wrong images on media and movies. mostly they portrait a bad boy who has no good qualities but he is of course very sincere in love?????. the crazy images about love, fashion, style drive the teen crazy and they start things at a very immature stage which ruin their lives completely.

after a long time i have watched such a wonderful drama on TV. which presented the emotions and thoughts of a teenage girl so accurately and consequence she faced in the drama are very close to the real life. i recommend girls to watch it and it will clarify many things in your mind. 

luckily this drama is available on YouTube and you can watch it online as well. the drama's name is hiddat. its about a girl Nimra  who was engaged to her cousin but her cousin don't take to her much. she considered it as a rejection and anti-love. her friend was a modern and belonged to rich family. she met her cousin named Farhad. he impressed her so deeply and she fell in love. 29 episode drama serial has suspense, love and deeper understanding of psychological ups and downs in teenage girl's mind and emotions. the drama didn't make her guilty but showed her difficulties 

hope my all daughters who are my students will enjoy the drama and learn a lesson from this story.

stay blessed

xoxo